Drake Hogestyn's One Lucky Man: "I've Got A Wonderful Wife And A Great Family"
Through his life, lady luck has always seemed to shine her good fortune on Drake Hogestyn (John). Drake's professional career has flowed, like a fine wine, from one peak to another - through "lucky breaks" from college to professional sports. From his first acting jobs to hitting the heels of his tenth anniversary on daytime - Drake is thankful for his life, loves and most of all, the support of the woman that gives his life meaning, his wife Victoria.
DAYTIME DIGEST: Do you feel that your life, so far, has been fulfilling?
Drake Hogestyn: I'm a very lucky man. I don't know what I did. I know that I have a lot of patience. Maybe that's from baseball and learning that you can fail seven out of ten times as a batter, and still hit three hundred and be in the Hall of Fame! You learn how to handle setbacks. I took a major setback with my wife, Victoria, years ago in losing her because of my career. My choices didn't work into her life plan. There's a reason for all of that. At that point I didn't understand it obviously - but I knew at one point that, when I was sixty-eight and she was sixty-five, we were going to get back together. I was just going to be patient and wait. I tried another avenue. It never seemed I made a conscious choice to what I wanted to do. Things just happened for me.
DAYTIME DIGEST: In what way?
Drake Hogestyn: I was in a pre-dental program in college and was going to dental school. I had a good season of baseball and I knew the scouts were looking, but if that was going to happen, it would happen. I took my dental board exams and I came out of the testing program and there are the reporters from the Tampa Tribune, telling me that I had just been drafted by the Yankees. They were all asking me what I was planning on doing and I had some choices to make. I couldn't believe it, the New York Yankees - my gosh - I grew up with Mickey Mantle as my hero. My dad came from Upstate New York and was a tremendous influence in my life and he was a big Yankees fan and with the DiMaggio's and all that. That was my chance to give it a shot. But also, I lost Victoria in the process. This thing with the Columbia Pictures Television contract I got, that came out of the blue! It came during the off-season where I went to Hollywood and went through a three-month workshop. I might be back in time for spring training and they gave me a contract! That was the way I've always done everything - exhaust it to the fullest extent and then have fun! Victoria came back into my life, the show came along, here we are with her two children from the prior marriage and our two children - I'm just a lucky man. I've got a great job, a steady job, and between that and home I'm full!
DAYTIME DIGEST: Do you and Victoria work really hard to make your marriage work?
Drake Hogestyn: If you're really in love, really in love - I wish that people could experience that...I'm sure that alot do. But divorce rates prove my point. If you're really in love, just love this person, you'll get through any situations that arise. If not for staying in marriages for the sake of children, you are bonded for life. You want to share everything with them. You want to be with them. When you are alone and you experience something, anything, like an animal running across a hillside, you want to share that with her and if she's not there, you can't wait to tell her about it! That type of thing. Our family is very, very close and we are so interwoven with each other's lives. Last night, the phone rang and everyone always says 'That's for Ben!' Then Alexandra says, 'Daddy, you never have anybody call you!' It's like, 'Where are your friends?' I said to her 'You're my best friend.' I would rather be home and watching the kids grow up and making those moments and spending time with my wife than socializing. We've been in our house since 1988. We moved in one week before Alexandra was born, and we've never once had a dinner party in our house. We don't socialize like that! If I ever get any time to go out, I want to have my family with me, or if I'm really lucky, I'll get a babysitter and just have Victoria one on one. That's a big night! If we could squeeze a dinner and a movie out of it, that's a big night!
DAYTIME DIGEST: You and Victoria must consider yourselves very lucky?
Drake Hogestyn: We do, I'm kind of a fatalist actually! You're always thinking something's going to happen. We've just passed the time of the year when all the insurance policies come up. You have to sit down and do all that stuff, especially estate planning. They say stuff like, 'you're going to die, here's what's going to happen. Do you want your kids to go to college? Will they live in this house right here or are they going to move back to Indiana?' You have to cut this huge check because if you die tomorrow, the house is taken care of, the kids know that they can live on X number of dollars a year and that their college will all be paid for. I'm thinking, 'Okay, that's bad. I'm gone and I think that the kids will need a father figure.' Then, we had to do Victoria's if she died, and I said, 'I don't want to talk about that!' She is the glue of this family and if she were to go, me as a parent - you don't dwell on it but sometimes, you have to think about it. It would just do me in. I would have to have some pretty major help out here with the family to keep me together. I don't know if I could be strong enough for the children when they would need it.
DAYTIME DIGEST: Don't you feel you have to confront this more often than not, living in California, where you've had your share of dangerous earthquakes this past year?
Drake Hogestyn: We've had the quakes, the fire and the flood - all in the same year. We live overlooking the ocean in Malibu. The two neighbors above me were burned out. The neighbor below me was washed out. To see that happening and the quakes, with all the glassware breaking - I think I had all four kids out of the house and in the front yard in ten seconds! I scooped up the two youngest girls and out they went. I grabbed Ben and he was still asleep, and took him out. Then I went to Rachael's room and she had one of her girlfriends over and I remembered before I went in, I thought, 'privacy!' Then I went, 'Forget that!' and went in and found them, very scared. I was like 'Outta here, let's go!' Those are moments, but the way that Victoria looks at it is, 'We have enough little pebbles in the road of life, conflicts that come up continuously. We'll gladly take those and kick them out of the way in order not to get to the big boulder.' That's the way we approach things.
DAYTIME DIGEST: If you had one message to give to DAYS fans, what would it be?
Drake Hogestyn: The fans are so kind. To be honest, I get a little embarrassed from the attention. It sounds kind of funny, but I remember being released by the Yankees and I always thought that I was the best until I started playing with the other players. Then I thought, 'These guys are really good!' It's humbling to be released and not do something you want to do. As an actor, it's something I didn't set out to do. I fly by the seat of my pants. I know what is expected in daytime, and you'd be a fool not to. Love in the afternoon and a picture is worth a thousand words. There's a certain way to treat ladies and I try to treat my leading ladies the way I treat my wife. I think that's positive. As for the fans that enjoy Roman, The Pawn, John Black, John Stevens, Forrest Alamain - that enjoy this character, sometimes I wonder if I'm worthy of that and I hope that I don't disappoint them 'at bat' as I like to tell it.
You're only as good as your next show and I just hope that whatever is attracting them, I can keep delivering. I do that everyday. I am very appreciative and I don't take it for granted and I know that our names here, they slide on and off the door continuously. I've watched a lot of great talent come on and off the show, people I thought were secure here. If I just keep my nose clean and don't rock the boat like dad said, maybe I can get a few years in.
Lucille Giordano-Barilla, DAYTIME DIGEST, THE BEST OF DAYS OF OUR LIVES, 4/96
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