♥ Hog Wild Daytime's Only Father/Son Soap Stars Weigh In On Boyhood, Biking And Bonding
Drake Hogestyn met his wife, Victoria, when they were kids, but life took them down separate paths. By the time they reunited years later, Victoria had daughter Rachael and son Ben from a previous marriage; she and Drake then had daughters Whitney and Alexandra. Drake and stepson Ben bonded quickly, as they put it, "For our own survival." Now that Ben has joined the cast of GENERAL HOSPITAL as Lucas, the Hogestyn boys have a whole new area of familiarity to share.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Drake, what was Ben like growing up?
Drake Hogestyn: There aren't enough adjectives. Bright. Inquisitive. Athletic. Joyful. An old soul. He had a voracious appetite as far as reading material and comprehension. He had a unique ability to talk to adults on their own level. Cutting edge. He was a trendsetter among all the kids. Not at all inhibited. A guy's guy. You'd have a great time if you went out with him and the girls would have an even better time.
Ben Hogestyn: Pass!
Drake Hogestyn: I don't have guy friends who I'll hang out with and go to ballgames with. That's all Ben. He's my best friend.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Being the only men in a house full of women must have contributed to the bonding experience.
Drake Hogestyn: Yeah. It was girl, boy, girl, girl, so once the balance swung, that was it.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Do you share any favorite father/son activities?
Drake Hogestyn: Anything outside the home (laughs).
Ben Hogestyn: Motocross. Paintball. Every type of sport.
Drake Hogestyn: He taught me how to snowboard. He got me off skis and kicked my ass.
Ben Hogestyn: We've got that same passion for anything that goes fast. Cars. Bikes. You name it.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Drake, you were a professional baseball player. What did you think when Ben came home and said, "I found my sport of passion. It's water polo." (Ben laughs.)
Drake Hogestyn: I said, "Let's go out and buy some water polo balls and teach me the game. What's a foul?" I didn't know anything about it. As much as I taught him about baseball, he taught me more about water polo.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Fast-forward a few years and Ben decides he wants to act. What was your initial response?
Drake Hogestyn: "What took you so long?" He landed a soap early out of the gate, which is impossible! We're very proud of him. A lot of the attributes he carries in his acting, I wish I had. One of them is that sense of calm, that sense of stillness, which you can't teach. (Acting) is another great bonding thing. I'm going to miss our times sitting in the garage going over his lines because I saw some of his work with Brad Maule's (Ex-Tony, GENERAL HOSPITAL) death scenes, and it made me sad because he doesn't need me to run lines or talk about structure or points of view. He's off and running now.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: How did you feel when Ben changed his name from Schieferstein and took your name professionally?
Drake Hogestyn: Really proud. I've always considered him my boy. I got done doing SEVEN BRIDES FOR SEVEN BROTHERS (in 1982) and I was called back to my hometown of Fort Wayne, Indiana, doing the CBS (publicity) tour, but my real thrust was to see (his now-wife) Victoria. She had just gone through a breakup and I was hoping that she had one leg and lost all her hair. (Ben laughs.)
Drake Hogestyn: She opened the door and she looked just like I remembered her from eight years earlier, and she was holding him. He was a baby, just a squirt. She asked if I wanted to hold him and I said, "Yeah." I walked over to the hallway mirror and I was looking at him and I thought, "He should have been mine," and she said, "He can be (laughs)." And he is. I've always considered him my son.
Ben Hogestyn: The first time he saw the name was when I brought him to an independent film that I had done and he saw it in the credits.
Drake Hogestyn: That brought a tear to my eye.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Do you watch each other's work?
Drake Hogestyn: I do because my wife has it TiVo'd. We have the season pass for GENERAL HOSPITAL.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Does she TiVo DAYS as well? (Drake shakes his head "no." Ben laughs.)
Ben Hogestyn: I knew this was coming.
Drake Hogestyn: As long as I have made a living as an actor, thanks to DAYS OF OUR LIVES, this is all fresh again because it's her son. She hangs on his every word. The world stops when Ben's on, and that's good to see. Not only that, the daughters are so excited and even their friends are so excited.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: So, you're old hat now, Drake?
Drake Hogestyn: Oh, yeah. But it's a whole new generation that's rolled over and vicariously, I feel their excitement.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Drake, now that Ben is on his own, do you miss him around the house?
Drake Hogestyn: Let's put it this way: These days, I watch a lot of AMERICA'S NEXT TOP MODEL, AMERICAN IDOL, and GILMORE GIRLS. You know where I'm going, right? If you want to bond with the rest of your family, this is what you do. At least we've finally gotten away from the malls.
Ben Hogestyn: But I still drop by the house a lot.
Drake Hogestyn: He does.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Is there a famous father/son combination you'd say is similar to your relationship?
Drake Hogestyn: Kirk Douglas and Michael Douglas?
Ben Hogestyn: Charlie and Martin Sheen? Charlie and I wouldn't be into the same themes, necessarily (laughs). Actually, I think the relationship between Danny Glover and Mel (Gibson) in LETHAL WEAPON would probably be closer.
Drake Hogestyn: Yeah. Remember Danny Glover saying "I'm too old for this sh##" and he keeps getting sucked into it? I can understand that. It's been refreshing to get a motorcycle and then drop it on myself. (They both laugh.) I wouldn't have gotten a motorcycle if Ben wasn't into bikes, and I wouldn't be calling my wife to help lift it off me.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Besides the need for speed, what else do you two have in common?
Ben Hogestyn: A perfectionist attitude.
Drake Hogestyn: Yeah, I hate that.
Ben Hogestyn: We're both driven. We're opinionated about certain things. Curious. What else?
Drake Hogestyn: Too many things to mention.
SOAP OPERA DIGEST: Ben, what's something that Drake has instilled in you that you've taken out into the world?
Ben Hogestyn: Be honest. Be yourself. To the casual observer, he's very cool. But he's much deeper than that in his dedication to family and to work. Whatever you undertake, make sure you're passionate about it and give it a hundred percent. Live by example. Watching how special (his parents) are with each other, treating each other with respect. Live life to the fullest and enjoy each and every moment because it could all be gone just like that.
Drake Hogestyn: As I said, Ben's my best friend. He's the one who has pulled me along. For everything I may have showed him or introduced to him, he's taught me so much more.
Tom Stacy, SOAP OPERA DIGEST, 6/20/06
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